Beautifully Imperfect

       

“Funeral” is a TV commercial launched directed by the critically acclaimed and award winning film director, Yasmin Ahmad and commissioned by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS). The story portrays a wife's love for her husband. It takes a look at marriage in a different light. A middle aged woman shares humorous stories during an eulogy at her husband’s funeral. She is celebrating how beautiful imperfections are that make a relationship perfect.

When we are in love with a person, we will love the person as a whole and to accept the 'package' that comes with the person, be it good or bad.

"We come to love is not to find a perfect person, but to love an imperfect person perfectly.

Hope we are able to find a life partner who are beautifully imperfect that made them perfect for us and love us for our imperfection as who we are.

Choosing The Right Partner For Life

"Love has great potential to enrich your life. But if you are just playing a role, pretending to love, it's only going to poison you. Because you are teaching yourself that it's just a game, and slowly but surely you will lose the capacity to open in love."

Well, sometimes we are just confused as to whether we really love the person or merely an attraction or just an infatuation in a blind relationship. Many have just simply taking relationship into marriage as the result of evolutionary process and social development to set a family as the value of co-operation with their partner in bringing up children and sharing in the caring for them and for each other. However, there's another side of the truth of finding the right partner and setting up a family as being a Christian.

Choosing The Right Partner For Life by Kong Kee (born 23 August 1964), the founder, honorary and volunteer senior pastor of City Harvest Church in Singapore. Brought this audion summon CD a few years back and found it enriching as it helps to deepen our understanding of ourself, relationships and people around.

Here's the content:

God's Purpose For A Family

The truth is God has not only formed male and female individuals, but He also has designed to use marriage and the family to accomplish His overall purposes. To help parents adopt God's purpose for their family and understand their key role in shaping godly children. God's blessing upon each of these couples would be shown when they would bear forth a new person that united resemblances of both the father and mother. God encouraged this process by commanding the couples to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:27,28).

Eight Types Of Relationships That Won't Work

- You care more about your partner more than he does about you for a very long period of time.
- You are in love with your partner's potential (for who you wish to be instead for who he/she is).
- You are in a rescue mission.

- You look up to your partner as a role model (and you'll find yourself loosing your own identity).
- You are in love with your partner only for the external reason.
- You and your partner are really trench or team buddy.
- You choose a partner in order to be rebellious.

- Your partner is unavailable.

Eight Fatal Flaws

- Anger
- Control freak
- Victim consciousness

- Sexual immorality
- Your partner has not grow up
- Emotional unavailable

- Those that have not recover from past relationship
- Emotionally damage from childhood

Seven Qualities To Look For In A Mate
- Commitment to personal growth (spiritually and mentally)
- Emotional openness
- Integrity
- Maturity and responsibility
- Healthy self esteem
- Positive attitude towards life
- Personal chemistry (which is most important quality despite having all the above six qualities)

Compatibility & Commitment

- Significant age difference where like more than 10 years.
- Different spiritual conviction.
- Different social ethnic and social background.
- Overbearing In-laws.
- Long distance relationship.

I always have this rescue mission in me, a natural instinct for almost every women. Trying to help, improve and change the other person to become a better person in exchange for the love that I always hunger for during my childhood. Obviously, the relationship doesnt work out most of the time cos to love someone is to love for who he/she is now and not thinking to change him/her to be someone else. The reason is simple, is a bonus if the person change for better but usually a rare cases for is hard to change someone when it has become a habitual character in him/her (Im talking about mean bad habits here). So try not to build a relationship upon fear, insecurity and pity as it will never last and will only give unhappiness and sorrow in life. If there are too many ifs, ands or buts in a relationship then sooner or later the relationship is bound to fail. Hope the above helps to lead you towards making the right decision as to choosing the right partner in life.

"A soulmate is someone who has the locks that fit our keys, an keys to fit our lock and a perfect match is the one that holds your hand as you are lowering your parents' bodies into the grave for the last time."

God bless!

Marriage Builders

The divorce rate is extremely high in today's society because husbands and wives supposedly stop loving one another-or they "fall out of love". They may go through a rough patch in their marriage, and they no longer "feel" love for their spouse, so they call it quits. Evidently, their marriage vow of "till death do us part" means they can part at the death of their love for their spouse rather than at their physical death.

There can be a thousand very small and different causes of divorce in a particular case. But given below are the most frequent and most common causes of divorce.

1) Lack of communication or poor communication - Poor or lack of communication between husband and wife is the most common cause of divorce these days. People are not always ready to discuss those small things which doesn't seems to be working out. It results in conflicts and arguing, which ends up at divorce.

2) Lack of commitment for the marriage to make it a success - People are not commited to marriage or their spouses.

3) Not being faithful with spouse - This is another common reason for the marriage break-ups. If you not faithful, it is just time that it is recognized and take care of (in terms of divorce).

4) Financial Reasons - Yes, this is also one of the most common causes of divorce. This happens in two cases. First, when people do not want to discuss their financial situations like debts etc. before marriages. Second, when before marriage, wife thinks that husband should earn for the family and husband thinks that they should both working for the betterment of the family. This results in conflicts later.

Marriages today across the globe are facing more challenges as couples cope with greater demands at work, competing aspirations, and evolving societal values. One concern is that couples today increasingly see divorce as their first option when their marriage hits a rocky patch.

The successful marriage depends on two things; finding the right person and being the right person.

Personally, I do earnestly hope that everyone should have the opportunity to go thru Marriage Builders and understand the importance factors in excelling their marriage through God's purpose.

God bless!